I am Asian and 23 years old. I recently just graduated from a top-tier university in Massachusetts with a business degree. I moved to the United States when I was 15 years with my mother while my father stayed behind in China. He is a wealthy businessman who works in and out of China and my grandfather is a powerful government official. My family is extremely traditional and for the last 4 years, my family has been pushing me to get married, start a family, and return to China etc.
My problem is that I don’t want to return to China nor do I want to get married to some girl I only met once. They have been setting me up with numerous blind dates and I have been struggling to find excuses to skip out. Since my junior year I have been dating this girl whose family is lower middle class and runs a Chinese restaurant in Chinatown. After my family found out about my girlfriend, they demand that I break up with her because “they can find me someone better” and they think she is only interested into my money.
I really like her and we have been secretly dating for about 9 months now, I am about to return to China so should we continue this relationship? They think I already left her, what should I tell them? What should I say to her? What should I do?
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